Posted: July 15, 2015
Reinhold Niebuhr wrote the famed serenity prayer. In short it states,”Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Profound words to live by in my opinion. Needing to…
Posted: July 10, 2015
The last of my six steps to conflict resolution is: ” tune into your listening sensitivity.” Essentially, be your own therapist. One of the cornerstones of providing good therapy is listening. If you aren’t listening to your clients you cannot help them. The same is true for your relationship. One would…
Posted: July 1, 2015
If you are going to try any of the six steps to conflict resolution that I am offering to you, the fifth step is the one. The fifth step to my steps to conflict resolution goes like this: before saying anything to your partner, ask yourself, “Is what I am about to…
Posted: June 24, 2015
The fourth step to conflict resolution: no name calling. The most important thing to remember about name calling is you can’t take it back! Those words may haunt your relationship for the course of its life. During a quarrel, I find that women tend to name call like a BB gun:…
Posted: June 16, 2015
Therapy is all about processing emotions. My second step to resolving conflict is to process information with your partner as quickly as possible. Communicate feelings and emotions related to the issue quickly and effectively. Try not to push things under the rug to discuss at a later date. “Swept up”…
Posted: June 9, 2015
When I see clients for relationship therapy, I more often than not give them a hand out I made of what I believe to be the key six steps to resolving conflict. So I thought it best to begin my blog here with number one: Marriage…