We see our families more often during the holiday season than any other time. Coincidently, we see our therapist less. I always get a ton of phone calls after the holiday season regarding family stress and meltdowns that occurred over the break. It is ironic that the “most wonderful time of the year” can be […]
16 Things I am Doing Instead of Writing My Blog
Here it is folks. The list of things I have been doing instead of writing. #1 Taking care of my home and 10-month old daughter full time. I mean everything. From soup to nuts. These days, with the exception of contributing financially, I have been doing every single thing in my nicely sized home where two […]
Control is an Illusion
Reinhold Niebuhr wrote the famed serenity prayer. In short it states,”Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Profound words to live by in my opinion. Needing to know is where my burning desire for control stems. I […]
Listen Up!
The last of my six steps to conflict resolution is: ” tune into your listening sensitivity.” Essentially, be your own therapist. One of the cornerstones of providing good therapy is listening. If you aren’t listening to your clients you cannot help them. The same is true for your relationship. One would say that communication is the key to any good relationship. […]
Help or Hurt?
If you are going to try any of the six steps to conflict resolution that I am offering to you, the fifth step is the one. The fifth step to my steps to conflict resolution goes like this: before saying anything to your partner, ask yourself, “Is what I am about to say going to help or hurt the situation?” Really ask yourself: […]