Here it is folks. The list of things I have been doing instead of writing. #1 Taking care of my home and 10-month old daughter full time. I mean everything. From soup to nuts. These days, with the exception of contributing financially, I have been doing every single thing in my nicely sized home where two […]
Control is an Illusion
Reinhold Niebuhr wrote the famed serenity prayer. In short it states,”Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” Profound words to live by in my opinion. Needing to know is where my burning desire for control stems. I […]
Listen Up!
The last of my six steps to conflict resolution is: ” tune into your listening sensitivity.” Essentially, be your own therapist. One of the cornerstones of providing good therapy is listening. If you aren’t listening to your clients you cannot help them. The same is true for your relationship. One would say that communication is the key to any good relationship. […]
Help or Hurt?
If you are going to try any of the six steps to conflict resolution that I am offering to you, the fifth step is the one. The fifth step to my steps to conflict resolution goes like this: before saying anything to your partner, ask yourself, “Is what I am about to say going to help or hurt the situation?” Really ask yourself: […]
No Name Calling!
The fourth step to conflict resolution: no name calling. The most important thing to remember about name calling is you can’t take it back! Those words may haunt your relationship for the course of its life. During a quarrel, I find that women tend to name call like a BB gun: fast, sharp, and only making minor dents. But men, men […]